Now in private beta

Dating, but for the actually-ready.

We built datEQ for people who are done with surface-level connections. Take our assessment. Find your match. Make it mean something.

At a glance

A calmer way to date with clinical care at the center.

  • Therapist reviewed profiles
  • No swiping, ever
  • Safe, vetted community

How it works

Three stages. About a month from invite to first date.

  1. 01

    Take the assessment

    A guided set of questions across attachment, conflict, values, intimacy, and growth. Most people finish in about 20 minutes. Informed by published relationship research.

  2. 02

    Get your profile

    A private profile across 9 dimensions, shown only relative to potential matches, never raw.

  3. 03

    Meet 1–2 people / week

    High-signal matches only. Conversations open with a prompt drawn from your shared dimensions. No swiping.

Built with licensed relationship therapists

Lisa CohenLicensed Mental Health Counselor

datEQ opens a window into a person's real values, and into what building a relationship with them would actually feel like. The depth of the questioning helps our clients find a partner who genuinely fits into their world.

Dr. Kayla NelsonPsyD, Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Dating with intention, grounded in real insight into your patterns, changes everything. I’m excited to help those seeking true and lasting (not perfect) connection.

Jenny MossLMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

What I appreciate about this approach is that it brings a level of intentionality to dating that we rarely see. When individuals have the opportunity to identify their love languages, attachment wounds, and personality patterns before being matched, it shifts dating from a reactive experience to a more conscious one.

Values that keep intentional dating grounded.

We pair lived experience with clinical guidance so every connection is rooted in mutual care, consent, and emotional safety.

Therapist Reviewed Profiles

Every profile is reviewed by licensed relationship therapists who provide insights on compatibility, communication styles, and relationship readiness.

Quality Over Quantity

Receive a curated selection of deeply compatible matches instead of endless swiping. Each introduction is meaningful and intentional.

Relationship Science

Our matching approach combines attachment theory, communication research, and therapeutic frameworks to identify lasting compatibility.

Safe Community

Our therapist-reviewed approach creates a community of emotionally mature individuals committed to healthy, respectful connections.

What you've been using

Dating Apps

  • Swipe-based, surface-level
  • Profile photo = personality
  • No context for matches
  • Ghosting is the norm
  • Optimized for engagement, not relationships
What we built instead

datEQ

  • Assessment-based matching
  • 9 dimensions of personality
  • Context-rich profiles
  • Intentional, curated connections
  • Optimized for relationships that last

The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. datEQ helps you bring that understanding to everything else.

Craig Kaplan, LMSW, Founder
Try a question

The assessment isn't a personality quiz.

Most people finish in around 20 minutes, and your answers stay private, used only to find people you fit.

Sample question

I find it easier to give support than to ask for it.

Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree

You answered: Neutral. This contributes to your caregiving balance dimension.

Strong alignment across Attachment, Communication, Conflict & Repair, Emotional Regulation, Support, Maturity, Intimacy, Family, Roles.

Compatibility, not just chemistry.

Every match shows where you and someone else line up, and where you'll have to meet in the middle. No hidden algorithm, no tricks to keep you scrolling.

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